I don’t think my mother should be driving anymore. Last month she backed into another car in a parking garage and didn’t realize until the police showed up as a result of the other person reporting a hit and run. My siblings and I have spoken with her about giving up her car but she is very reluctant and feels she will lose her independence. Is there anyone we can approach to help?
It is also important to remember that as we age, our reaction time and vision can change. If your mother has not had a recent medical examination from her physician and/or eye doctor, this should be arranged. Any health changes, new medications, corrective lenses, poor depth perception, slow reflexes, disorientation can all be valid reasons for having to giving up a drivers’ license. Having the physician agree can also take the pressure off you and your siblings in that you will no longer be the only ones concerned with her driving ability. The physician is able to order a driving suspension due to medical reasons.
It can also be very helpful to research transportation alternatives in advance of discussing this again with your mother. Each community is unique in the services they offer but if you can provide local options such as volunteer driving services, public transportation, or other programs for seniors, you can help ease her potential sense of isolation. Many communities also offer Meals on Wheels programs to assist seniors with changes like this. Most importantly, remember that this is a very difficult time for your mother and she needs support and understanding. Simply asking for guidance show you are caring adult children. Good luck!